Reality is a mirror

You’ve probably heard the phrase “as above, so below… as within, so without” and I’ve always had an intellectual idea about how this is so but I’ve not always had physical evidence until recently.

So, in the interest of personal growth and broadening my horizons, I have dipped back into the world of Facebook. This caused a LOT of uncomfortable inner turmoil but you can’t make an omelette without cracking eggs, right?

My preference has always been Instagram and I left Facebook years ago because I really didn’t enjoy it. The energy always felt a bit icky to me but when a training course I was doing insisted on joining their Facebook community, I decided to try it out. I figured if not just to connect with others on the course then I could also use it for business networking purposes and reaching a broader audience.

When I joined, I started following other coaches and healers to see what they are offering etc. Purely to keep a finger on the pulse in the industry and perhaps build friendships with like-minded business owners.

What actually happened was my inbox became flooded with a barrage of friend requests and DM’s from everyone and their auntie.

I tried to see this as a positive but honestly, I felt massively overwhelmed. Like I was stood in an arena full of people all shouting at me trying to get me to look at them and sign up for their offer or scam me out of money!!

I began to seriously regret my choices but persevered. Telling myself that being outside of my comfort zone is a good thing and to find the lesson in it all.

So, with this in mind, I sifted through each and every DM to connect with those I resonated with and removed the scam artists and bots.

When I thought I’d finally found a balance, in came another huge surge of marketing from those I was connected with…

~Sign up for my masterclass.

~Join me in a live.

~Create a course in 7 days

~Guaranteed client retention when you follow this guide

And so it went on and on… it was exhausting and I had to take a step back for a few days to regroup.

Then I began to notice when I was out in public, people were in my personal space or bumping into me. On the roads I had several instances where a car behind me was virtually in my back seat (and I’m no Miss Daisy behind the wheel - I have a bit of a lead foot!).

Of course I was triggered at the “lack of respect” but when I took a step back to look at the higher perspective, it became crystal clear… my physical reality was mirroring how I felt inside.

I felt pushed by these other coaches on Facebook to go in a direction and most importantly, at a timeframe they deemed appropriate. Just as the people up my arse on the roads were clearly not happy about the time I was taking to get from A to B. It wouldn’t have mattered how fast I was going, it still would not have been fast enough for the speed demon behind me.

It suddenly occurred to me that I was handing my power over to random strangers who know nothing about me OR my business and the more I tried to politely decline their offers, the more they persisted.

These fellow coaches were doing to me the exact same thing that I have accepted from most people in my life. They were pushing me to do what they wanted me to do and on their timescale. (See the blog post on Divine Time for more on this).

Everyone has these expectations that you should answer their message right away and conform to their business model or whatever else they’re selling.

What I’ve come to realise is… FUCK THAT!! It’s my business and I decide how, what and when things get done.

My methods and timelines may seem unconventional or even slow to someone looking in but they make perfect sense to me. Because they are aligned and authentic to me.

So, next time you have less than desirable situations coming up in life, it might be worth asking the question “what’s going on for me inside?” turn the mirror inwards and I can almost guarantee you’ll find the cause of the chaos in your reality!